11 “Don’t-Tell-the-Wife” Secrets All Men Keep
I ran across an article today, that is by far the most honest “male secrets” article about men and relationships I’ve ever come across. 11 “Don’t-Tell-the-Wife” Secrets All Men Keep is an article relating to secrets than men keep from their spouses, and what they really mean. I especially like the following:
Secret #1: Yes, we fall in lust 10 times a day — but it doesn’t mean we want to leave you
If the oldest question in history is “What’s for dinner?” the second oldest is “Were you looking at her?” The answer: Yes — yes, we were. If you’re sure your man doesn’t look, it only means he possesses acute peripheral vision.
“When a woman walks by, even if I’m with my girlfriend, my vision picks it up,” says Doug LaFlamme, 28, of Laguna Hills, California. “I fight the urge to look, but I just have to. I’m really in trouble if the woman walking by has a low-cut top on.”
Granted, we men are well aware that our sizing up the produce doesn’t sit well with you, given that we’ve already gone through the checkout line together. But our passing glances pose no threat.
“It’s not that I want to make a move on her,” says LaFlamme. “Looking at other women is like a radar that just won’t turn off.”
Secret #7: Every year we love you more
Sure, we look like adults. We own a few suits. We can probably order wine without giggling. But although we resemble our father when he was our age, we still feel like that 4-year-old clutching his pant leg.
With that much room left on our emotional-growth charts, we sense we’ve only begun to admire you in the ways we will when we’re 40, 50 and — God forbid — 60. We can’t explain this to you, because it would probably come out sounding like we don’t love you now.
“It took at least a year before I really started to appreciate my wife for something other than just great sex; and I didn’t discover her mind fully until the third year we were married,” says Newton. “But the older and wiser I get, the more I love my wife.” Adds J.P. Neal, 32, of Potomac, Maryland: “The for-richer-or-poorer, for-better-or-worse aspects of marriage don’t hit you right away. It’s only during those rare times when we take stock of our life that it starts to sink in.”
Secret #8: We don’t really understand what you’re talking about
You know how, during the day, you sometimes think about certain deep, complex “issues” in your relationship? Then when you get home, you want to “discuss” these issues? And during these “discussions,” your man sits there nodding and saying things like “Sure, I understand,” “That makes perfect sense” and “I’ll do better next time”?
Well, we don’t understand. It doesn’t make any sense to us at all. And although we’d like to do better next time, we could only do so if, in fact, we had an idea of what you’re talking about.
We do care. Just be aware that the part of our brain that processes this stuff is where we store sports trivia.
Secret #11: Give us an inch and we’ll give you a lifetime
I was on a trip to Mexico, standing on a beach, waxing my surfboard and admiring the glistening 10-foot waves, when I decided to marry the woman who is now my wife. Sure, this was three years before I got around to popping the question. But that was when I knew.
Why? Because she’d let me go on vacation alone. Hell, she made me go. This is the most important thing a man never told you: If you let us be dumb guys, if you embrace our stupid poker night, if you encourage us to go surfing — by ourselves — our silly little hearts, with their manly warts and all, will embrace you forever for it.
And that’s the truth.
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Yea, if more women realized what you did, they’d ultimately be happier and have longer relationships. Guys are completely different than girls, and we need to just do guy stuff sometimes.
And we think it’s damn sexy if our girls realize that.
Haha! I love this post…and yes, it is incredibly sexy to find a woman who realizes the truth of these things.
haha i must be doing the right thing then. Hell, I even buy my hubby “Men’s Magazines” monthly. He gets the photos and the centerfolds, I get to keep the rest of the magazine for the articles on sex and love. LOL.
I wouldn’t mind if my hubby went away on trips. I’ll even give him some pocket money. It’s a guy thing, and I respect it.