10 Things to Avoid Talking About On a First Date
While the first date is arguable the toughest, there are some things that you should probably not talk about. I believe truthfully that really the hardest date is the second and third, since you’ve gone over pretty much all the normal introductory information, etc.
Either way, here is a list of 10 things to avoid talking about on a date:
1. The Next Date
This one is tricky. For one, if you really hit it off, this will naturally occur, but, talking about it to soon can be dangerous two-fold. Firstly, it can scare your date. They could possibly take it as being overly aggressive, and maybe a little too clingy or desperate. Secondly it can put you in a hole. If you talk about a second date too soon, something may come up that completely changes your mind, but you’ve already discussed and possibly planned the next date, which will make breaking it much harder.
2. Anything Sexual
This one is also a big no-no. The only exception to this is when you’ve already established a relationship with her before hand, whether it was a one-night stand, etc. Anyways, the sexual stuff will take care of itself, you should spend your time on a first date deciding whether or not you want any part of her, and if so, how to make sure she wants the same.
3. Prior Relationships
Oh dear god if you only follow one of these 10 things, let this be the one. Nothing says “caught up” or “not over my ex”, like blabbering about them to your date. If they ask, just tell them you don’t feel comfortable talking about your ex’s right now, it could save your chances. Many girls do this for the very purpose to see what kind of guy you are, and what you say about people you’ve been involved with.
4. Expectations
Expectations. We all have them, but that doesn’t mean you should let them be known on the first date. You really shouldn’t go into a relationship or even a date with expectations. Doing so will only lead you to failure or feeling shorted.
5. Family
This can be a touchy enough subject, so it’s best to not bring it up unless she does. The reason for this is that you never know how screwed up her family relationship could be. If she brings it up though, it probably means the subject isn’t something she’s afraid to talk about.
6. Baggage
If you bring any baggage to the table (no pun intended), it’s best to not mention it, unless it’s something really crazy like you’re going to die in two months. The reason for this is that inevitably you’re both going to bring baggage to the table. Whether its ex’s, bad credit history, plans to move soon, or even chlamydia, leave it out. If you find out you like each other enough, it will find a way to work itself out.
7. Other Females
Nothing says egotistical man-whore like talking about girls you know, dated, want to date/bang, etc. The girl you’re on the date with wants to be the only female topic, make sure you don’t include others. Oh, and try not to stare too much at other girls either, females have very good perception in these areas and will strike you with the fires of hell.
8. Politics
Whether you’re the President of the United States, or just average Joe, leave any talks about politics out of bounds for a date. It never, ever leads anywhere good. As an exception though, if you know before hand their political affiliation, it can be okay to talk politics.
9. Religion
This one is just as bad as politics, can sometimes be worse. I’d leave religion out of all talk, irregardless of whether or not you know her religion. It is just a very dry subject that doesn’t usually turn on a females natural attraction senses.
10. The Tab
Last but not lease, the tab. Be a gentleman and pay the tab, even if she insists you let her pay, or pay half, just pay it. It will save you later on if she ever needs an excuse to call you “cheap”. Plus, if it doesn’t work out, you know the price of the knowledge you learned on the date.
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Wow, if only all single men could read this! I can’t tell you how many times I have went out with a guy and he talked about 3 or more of the above subjects. It’s just a no-no. Hopefully, your article will help at least some men out there! Thanks for sharing.
I think family is a great starting point. After all, everyone has family, and if she doesn’t want to discuss family, it will be obvious.
That’s a great list of what not to do on a first date. Talking about any of points listed above will sure turn off anyone on the very first date. I think the important thing to remember is to “Think before you talk”. So, what about a list of what “To Do” on the first date? Ciao.
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Great reading!